Tuesday, April 24, 2012


I have a dear, sweet friend, age 50 (-+) who has just found out that she has colon cancer. She was to see the surgeon today. I haven't heard the results yet. But, she said that when the doc told her what was wrong, her first thought was, "I want my mom."
I was telling my daughter this and she said, " I am in touch with that emotion. When Mom died, I wanted her back, and I couldn't understand how the rest of the world just kept on doing what it was doing, people kept laughing, and I was miserable 'cause my mom just died."
I know how they felt, too. When my wife died, I wanted my mom. My mother was the kindest gentlest soul that there ever was, and if she had been here, she would have helped my kids and I through the loss.
All this brought back another memory. When my dad passed away in 1968, I can remember Mom telling me that in the last few moments of his life, Dad asked for his mom.
In thinking about all this, I have come to the conclusion that we want our moms whenever there is a crisis. Who did most of us turn to when we were children and had a crisis, even a minor boo-boo? It was mom. Moms are natural nurturers. I loved my dad, my kids love me, and I am sure my friend loves her dad, but because of Mom's gentle love, constant, and available, we always turn to her first.
Tonight, Prof came home and was unloading about her day at school. Both good and bad. Then she apologized because she felt she was bringing negativity into my home. She said that when she was in Montana teaching, if she had a bad day at school, she had no family nearby to unload on, so she would pick up the phone and call her mom.
So, you moms out there, bless you all!
I wonder how Eve handled Cain and Abel???



Mellodee said...

Moms are the first and best relationship most of us ever have. No one ever loves you as much as your mom. I think it has something to do with the fact we were nurtured, fed, protected and loved before we even draw our first breath. Moms gave us life but they also give us the most loving advice, they cry with us, they laugh with us, and no matter what you do, they continue to love you and care about you. My mom always said, "If you live to be 100 years old, you will still be my little girl." When we lose our moms, no matter how old we are, we lose that connection to the person who knows us best. And when hard things happen, we still want their counsel and loving arms around us....no matter how old we are.

When my mom would come to see the musicals I was in (especially when I first began doing them), no matter how large the cast, no matter how little I was actually on stage, no matter if I was nothing more than a "spear carrier", the first thing my mom always said to me afterward was, "You were the best one!!" And she meant it. As far as she was concerned, I was the star! Always....I miss her every day.

Curley said...

I am sure that in times of real bad stress, Prof will still want her mom, but I think that she has now transferred some of that "oh, good, I need to unload some of the crap that my day has been" to you. I think that means that she trusts you to let her vent and let go of some of the stress. Doesnt' mean you have to comment or try to make things better. Just listen.

momto8 said...

I ,miss my mom very much...and many times...I know how much she would enjoy her grandchildren..

Beatrice P. Boyd said...

Hi Jimmie, this was a very nice, and oh so true, post about moms. There are times, my mother and I don't agree and other times she irks me, as I am sure I do to her, but regarldess there is lots of love.

Anvilcloud said...

All the best to your friend. Hopefully, they caught it early.

Dee said...

I missed out on the mom/good relationship part of life but learned the valuable gift of forgiveness and went on to be a good mom and foster mom.

Jimmie Earl said...

Thanks for all the comments. And hats off to all you moms. I read a coffee mug the other day that said,"Motherhood"...the hardest and most rewarding job you will ever have."

And I believe it!